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Tuesday, July 9, 2013

surf. sand. and a helluva good time.

Anyone who really knows me can stand up for me when I say that the beach is seriously one of my favorite places! There is absolutely nothing like sitting in a chair in the sun with the waves rushing in and knowing that I have no where to be. Ahhhh....relaxation!

A couple weeks ago, Heids and I were blessed enough to join my family in Myrtle Beach for a week of sun, sand and good times. There were 23 of us staying in our house, and though things were crammed at times we made it work. With the beach only a couple hundred yards away, I knew this week would hold a ton of memories. So, instead of overwhelming you with tons of details that you'll probably just skim over, I've decided to post some of my favorite pictures from the week. I'll add in the link to the full album down at the bottom too!

Enjoy!


These two.. #bff

My main lil homie - cousin Caleb
Surfing with my niece, Hayden

Heidi and I searching for "wildlife"
My parents renewed their vows for their 25th Anniversary!


My cousin, Brooke, and her boyfriend, Steven


Ready for our "big kids' night out"

The backyard
I seriously have the cutest niece EVER!
I hope you all enjoyed this sneak peek into our week at Myrtle Beach. Feel free to take a look at the rest album by clicking here! And remember to leave comments below and check back often for more fun with Phiz!

Until next time, be adventurous.

paddle faster. i hear banjos.

Well it's has definitely taken me longer than expected to get the post up, but I didn't want to publish it without some pictures. After all, what's a blog without some sweet pics to look at?!

Last month, my girlfriend, Heidi, and I took a trip down to my hometown, South Boston, to visit with my family. This wasn't just any ordinary trip to see family though. No, friends, this was a big step in our relationship. During our weekend in Southern VA, we made plans to go on a big family canoe trip! I was a little nervous about whether or not she would paddle any (which she ended up not), while she was more worried about bugs, snakes, fish with fangs, rapids, etc....Needless to say, we were definitely in for an adventure!

Sorry for the finger in the picture... #fail

We set out on the Staunton River at Long Island (Virginia - not New York) Saturday morning, equipped with enough food and drinks to survive a voyage on the Oregon Trail. (Do you guys remember that computer game?) It wasn't long before Heids was lounged back in the front of our double kayak and I was propelling us down river.


Along the way we hit all of our usual stops, like Jump Rock, Lunch Rock and the crowd-favorite "Tree"!



My brother rocking Jorts

Too much fun!

Looking back on our time on the river, it's impossible not to smile and reminisce on how much fun we had. Though we all suffered some scrapes and insane sunburns, what stands out is the overwhelming feeling of laughter. Heids and I are anxiously looking forward to our next trip down the river. Don't tell her, but I think she's slowly coming around to accepting her adventurous rugged side!

In the meantime, I hope to see each of you getting out and enjoying an adventure or two of your own. I love hearing from you about what crazy things you get into, and suggestions for my next outing. Keep em' coming!! Stay tuned for another post sometime today with some details from our trip to Myrtle Beach; I'm really pumped to share it with you guys!

Until then, be adventurous.



Wednesday, May 29, 2013

a walk in the park.

I should have posted this a few weeks ago, but I guess it's true when people say "Better late than never". I had been anxiously awaiting the arrival of Spring so I could get out of the house and into the Great Outdoors! There is nothing like taking a hike in the Valley in springtime.

So my girlfriend, Heidi, and I packed a bag and headed up to Shenandoah National Park. We didn't quite have a plan set, but we knew we weren't going to let the day go to waste. We settled on the South River Falls trail (which has always been one of my favorites) and commenced our trek! The sun was bright and there was a cool breeze blowing - God was definitely planning to show off His creation.


Along the way, we both decided to get a bit adventurous. Heidi scaled a massive rock-face, while I maneuvered my way across a treacherous bridge...okay, maybe we weren't staring death in the face. But we sure felt like intense wilderness voyagers.

There's something about hiking that always puts me at ease. Now, I can't sit here and say I've always been the outdoor enthusiast, but in the past few years it's something I've grown to love and appreciate. I have my best friend and college roommate, Jeremy, to thank for it. It's hard not to be blown away by nature. When you really take a moment to take in the magnitude of it all, it's easy to be made humble.

For me, taking hikes or spending quiet time in the presence of my Creator and His creation, puts me back in a centered place. The fact that the One who molded mountains and valleys, trees and streams, also molded you and me is astounding. Whew! It kinda hurts my head just thinking about it. We are incredibly small in the grand scheme of things. Yet, God reaches out to us, loves us, and offers us lives of grandeur as if we were the most important things on Earth! And when I dig deeper, I find that, in fact, we are the most important thing to Him. He is our Father and He searches for and pursues us constantly. That's HUGE!

I want to leave you with some more pictures and the challenge to get out! Take a hike. Go explore the wonderful creation laid outside for us. You definitely won't regret it. And maybe one day in the future we can enjoy a walk in the park together. 


  


Looking out over South River Falls.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Jesus Calling.

It's Hump Day! And I am supa pumped to say the least. Don't get me wrong, I love having an awesome 9-5 job with an air conditioned office, but I'm also looking forward to the weekend.

It's been a very interesting week, well month. I said goodbye to a job that I loved, and started a new one that offers more stability (and benefits). The transition has been a bit overwhelming but I'm acclimating to the change in pace. Heidi, my beautiful girlfriend, has been extremely supportive and should be given an award for dealing with my complaints and stress. Now on to the point of this post...

During my lunch-break today, I was reading through my daily devotional - Jesus Calling (by Sarah Young). The message was as follows:

When things don't go as you would like, accept the situation immediately. If you indulge in feelings of regret, they can easily spill over the line into resentment. Remember that I am sovereign over your circumstances, and humble yourself under my mighty hand. Rejoice in what I am doing in your life, even though it is beyond your understanding.
I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. In Me you have everything you need, both for this life and for the life yet to come. Don't let the impact of the world shatter your thinking or draw you away from focusing on Me. The ultimate challenge is to keep fixing your eyes on Me, no matter what is going on around you. When I am central in your thinking, you are able to view circumstances from My perspective.

Umm....YES! What an amazing conviction! It's human nature to nit-pick and complain about everything little thing we don't like. I'm definitely guilty of it. Even though I have been thoroughly blessed, my human nature takes over and I find something to be unhappy about. And then I sit down for some quiet time with God and He smacks me across the face and tells me to WAKE UP!

I love that! I love how this ever-evolving relationship with Him can bring me back down to reality and remind me that He has everything, absolutely everything, under control. And the message is true. The hardest challenge is keeping our eyes fixed on Him and trusting in His all-knowing way. I urge you to check out the Scripture associated with this devotional, and find time to lay any worries on the One who has the power to make them all go away!

Scripture: 1 Peter 5:6; John 14:6

Monday, May 20, 2013

a lesson in Love.

November 3, 2012. A day that might seem like an ordinary day to many of you. However, to me, it is the day that I began one of my greatest adventures.

For a long while, I had become convinced that relationships, let alone LOVE, just weren't for me. I hadn't had much luck in the category and figured I probably was in the small percentage of men who grow up to become the creepy guy who's house all the kids were afraid to go near, fearful they'd never make it home alive. It's a tough thought to swallow, but I just merely accepted my fate and moved on.

Much to my surprise, God had another plan for me.

As I sat at home watching the X Factor with my roommates, my phone let loose a buzz. "Hi, Phil!" The girl on the other end of the message was surely as nervous as I was. (This "encounter" had been set up the day before by her sister.) I was too nervous to respond, but knew I needed to make a witty reply in order to keep her interested.

"Hey there chica!"   Smooth. I know.

I would love to post all the messages we exchanged that night, but I don't think Google will allow me that large of a blog post. All you need to know is that nearly seven months later, that preppy blonde is still sending the butterflies in my stomach flying.

I think it's easy for most guys to misinterpret God's hope for relationships between men and women. "Relationship" is the most important thing to God. Think about it! We were created by love and through love to be loved and to give love. Love changes us. It creates a reaction that provides energy, both emotional and spiritual, for life. Relationship is intended by God to be an experience that exposes us, transforms us, and mends us.

This woman that God has placed in my life has taught me these things and more. I think of how closed off I allowed myself to get, and how with love I accepted vulnerability. I remember the times when I hid true feelings, and how with love I became who He created me to be. I look back on the moments of brokenness, and how with love I have been pieced back together.

I have been blessed by the past seven months. And to ignore that truth would make me a fool. I know that the Lord has much more for me to learn, and He will surely place moments before me that teach me to be humble. But I rest confidently on His promise to never lead me down a road or path I am not capable of meneuvering.

No Excuses.

To say that I have fallen off the radar would be a HUGE understatement; my last post on here dates back all the to October which is highly unacceptable! While my absence from my blog may seem unwarranted, let me assure you that I have had many good reasons.

My life has been nothing short of interesting, consisting of various twists and turns, roadblocks and moments of joy and delight. I've walked along paths I never imagined for myself. And I have faced obstacles that have undoubtedly shaken my faith to its core. Yet, all the while my God has stood faithfully by my side, flowing words of encouragement into my wondering heart.

I now am finding myself back at the keyboard, excited about adventures that lie before me. My hope is that you all will return here often to hear the stories, see the pictures and, ultimately, marvel as the Lord's plan unfolds before me.

I look forward to sharing with you all again very soon. Until then, enjoy an adventure of your own.


Fondly,

Phiz

Sunday, October 21, 2012

leap of faith.

I have this friend.  Some of you may know him.  His name is Peter.  And one day, (in Matthew 14:22-32) the Lord spoke through Jesus, and told Peter to step out of a boat and walk on water. Through a leap of faith, he walked on the water, but not without stumbling first.  However, despite his stumble, he still defied the laws of nature.

If someone were to ask me to describe my summer working at a Boy Scout Camp, I would have to say:  IT WAS A LEAP OF FAITH. I worked as a whitewater raft guide, on the New River Gorge in Fayetteville, WV.  On the days I wasn’t rafting, I was working at Camp Powhatan in Pulaski, VA.  My employer…the Boy Scouts of America.  Now I myself was never a scout, but I have many friends who were, and my best friend happens to be an Eagle Scout.

I set off not knowing exactly what I would be getting myself into, but that’s what intrigued me!  It was a leap of faith.  For the first time, I was up against something that I had no prior knowledge of.  I spent two weeks at raft guide training, which proved to be the most difficult two weeks of my life, complete with losing 15 pounds.  My fellow trainees and I completed 28 trips in 14 days, along with swift water rescue training and various other certifications.  But I believe the hardest test, was the test against my faith.

During my prior semester in school, my faith grew immensely and I’d like to say that I had done a fairly good job at being an okay example to others who may be struggling with their faith.  However, when you’re forced to live in a 5x6 tent for two weeks, things begin to look pretty dim.  Now I knew I was strong enough to complete the training, but when the physical and mental exhaustion set in, I began to lose faith.  Faith in myself, and faith in God. I knew that He was there watching over me, but I sometimes wondered if He was actually helping me out any. I fought with these thoughts for a couple days and then as the second week drew to an end, I was dealt a huge revelation.

One of my close friends, Grace McAbee, a fellow Halifax native was there training with me.  Now you may be thinking to yourself, “Why on earth would a girl want to put herself in such a tough situation?”  She came because of her own leap of faith.

In order to become a raft guide, you have to pass two tests.  So as Grace began her second test of training, spirits were high.  But as she dropped into the first warm-up rapid of the day, something went wrong.  She lost her brace and slipped out of the raft and into a re-circulating hole.  After being held under for nearly a minute, she finally emerged gasping for breath.  Her face said it all.  The lack of color in her skin, and the short gasps were enough to make even the most experienced guide tremble.

I talked to her later that day, and she had this to say:  “Lamentations 3: 54-58.”

Ok?  I don’t really know where that came from, but I’ll take it. When I got back to my tent, I grabbed my Bible and looked up the passage.
"The waters closed over my head, and I thought I was about to be cut off.  I called your name, O Lord, from the depths of the pit.  You heard my plea: “Do not close your ears to my cry for relief.”  You came near when I called you, and you said, “Do not fear.”  O Lord, you took up my case; you redeemed my life."
What else is there to say?  From the depths of the pit, God called out to Grace and said do not fear; have faith!  Faith is defined as believing in something that cannot necessarily be seen.  Even though I sometimes felt like God wasn’t directly helping me, I soon realized that through Grace’s accident, God was telling me not to worry.  He was there!

Getting the chance to work at Boy Scout camp, gave me the amazing opportunity to meet a lot of great people.  I was privileged to get to teach many scouts, a lot of whom I can still remember their names.  During week two, I met a kid named Knick.  He was the class clown of the troop and by the end of the week, I felt like I had finally gotten across to him.

All week he had been getting picked on by the older guys, so needless to say he didn’t trust them very much.   He was deathly afraid of heights as well.  Now in my program, New River Adventure, we have a two days devoted to Low Cope and High Cope.  Low Cope teaches team-building, while High Cope pushes you to reach and overcome personal goals.  So when our High Cope Day arrived Knick was very apprehensive.  He ended up completing the course fine and had a great rest of the week.

After the closing campfire, we all decided to meet up to say our goodbyes.  We went around the circle and stated our high of the week and what we had learned, everyone except for Knick.  So we all eventually said our goodbyes and went our separate ways.  As I was walking away, Knick walked up to me with tears in his eyes and said: “Phil, thank you.”

“For what?”  I asked him, confused.

“For teaching me how to trust.”

I can honestly say that nothing feels better than hearing someone tell you that you made an impact in their life.

Knick placed his faith in me, and in turn placed his faith in God.  He saw something in me that he found easy to relate to, and I owe this God.  God gave me the opportunity to teach someone younger than me how to have faith in something greater than me.  Knick grew a little closer to God that day, whether he knew it or not.

Now, while Knick’s story will forever remain with me, I have to admit that the pinnacle of my summer came during the final week of camp.  You see I have this new friend.  You don’t know him, but his name is James.  James has cerebral pausey and has never been able to swim, climb stairs without help, or even climb a ladder.

I met James on a Sunday, and by Wednesday, he had made an impact on my life that I will forever carry.  I was working the High Cope course on Wednesday and James and his father had come to give it a try.  While his dad was a little nervous about the course, James jumped right in line.  His only goal was to make to the top of what’s called the Giant’s Ladder.  The Giant’s Ladder is the type of ladder where the rungs get farther and farther apart the high you go.  Now after about 15 minutes, he was 40 feet in the air, having completed his goal.

With a smile on his face, he continued on with the course, much to everyone’s surprise.  Pushing through a few slips here and there, James managed to make it all the way to what’s called “The Leap of Faith” (it’s two platforms about 3 ½ feet apart that you have to jump across).  This is the sixth element of the course.  He looked down at me, with his eyes wide and full of excitement, and a huge grin on his face, and asked, “You got me?”

“Yes,” I replied.

He then responded with, “You sure you got me?”

I think James embodies the way Christians view God.  We want to do so many adventurous things, and we set these lofty goals for ourselves, and yet we always have trouble trusting.  We come to the edge of some mountain in life, and we ask, “You got me?”  “Are you sure you got me?”

The answer is, YES!  He’s got us!  Most Christians are so afraid of what someone is going to think of them that they can’t just trust…they can’t jump!  Sure, we go to church every Sunday and occasionally we say a prayer or two for someone in need.  But how far from that do we actually go?  How much more are we really willing to put out there?

My guess is that we’d all love to do more than we do, but it’s just not convenient with our schedules.  Or maybe our excuse is, “Well so-and-so isn’t doing it, so why should I?”  When God puts us in challenging situations, we cower away with our tails tucked between our legs.  But why?  Because we’re far too afraid, and comfortable with our lives, to trust that God knows what He’s doing.

After about three minutes of going back and forth with James, I finally looked up at him and asked, “James, do you trust me?”

“Yeah.”

“Do you trust that God is gonna keep you safe?”

“Yes.”

“Alright then, what’s there to be afraid of?”

And he jumped.  It only took him about two seconds to make it to the other side, but for everyone watching, time seemed to stand still (as cliché as it sounds).  It was a once in a lifetime moment that I will never forget.  I tear up now just thinking about it.  Even though James didn’t complete the entire course, it doesn’t matter.  He accomplished his goal and then some.  James taught me something that day that I didn’t learn from reading about Peter in the Bible.

He took a leap of faith that day, and it’s one that I think we all can learn from.  It’s not about whether you guide rafts through class V rapids, teach kids about team-building, or sell hamburgers at McDonalds.  It’s all about taking an adventure.  Setting a goal and reaching it.  Like Peter walking on water, or Knick trusting his fellow scouts, or James climbing a ladder, it’s about confronting a challenging situation and putting trust in the Lord.

So the next time you find yourself on the edge of a high cliff, or at the head of an unmarked trail, will you choose to turn and go the other way, or take a leap of faith?